Day 20 – End of Experiment

It’s finally over! Now I can tell you about the “experiment.”

I called it an experiment as I didn’t want to announce that I was alone for three weeks. Some of you knew of course and some may have guessed. Now the cat’s out of the bag.

As you know, I have been doing most of Larry’s tasks for the past three weeks as well as my own. I learned a lot from this too. First and foremost, I learned I do not like being alone!! That’s right; Larry has been in CA for the past three weeks visiting his 88 year old mother and his brother and sisters. I couldn’t make the trip because I couldn’t leave my mom on her own for that long, nor did we want to ask our friends to take care of our critters for three weeks.

Karla and I drove Larry to Texas to his sister’s house and they flew from Dallas to Fresno. They flew back to Dallas yesterday and spent the night at his sisters as it is another three hours to our house; one way.

To celebrate his homecoming I made barbequed pork spareribs, potato salad, deviled eggs, baked beans, garlic toast, mango-peach tea, and for dessert I made an Allspice Cake.

Second, I learned that taking care of the chickens is a lot of dirty, smelly, hot and sweaty work. Oh the things we do for fresh eggs. I also learned that I was able to show those contrary critters who really rules the roost. They are hefty little eaters and they um, well let me just say they seem to “deposit” three times as much as they eat. Also as I mentioned in earlier posts; spiders love hanging around the hen house. They spun big circular webs on all four sides daily and always just about in line with my head and face. I imagine to any onlookers it appeared like I was practicing voodoo as I approached the coop each day. I did the stick wave, up and down and all around to knock the webs down, walking ever so carefully trying to keep my eye out for snakes, who also love hanging around the hen house. Thankfully I only had one encounter with a snake, still it was one too many. I will admit though that I am as afraid of spiders as I am of snakes.

The third lesson I learned is that pockets are a good thing when working outside, I didn’t have any and as mentioned earlier I put my cell phone “somewhere else” and it didn’t stay put. First it fell in the floor of the coop, not a pleasant place and the next day it fell in the water. I now have a new i-phone. I didn’t get the newest one though and I am quite happy with the old 3GS. It really is a ‘smart’ phone.

Last I learned that absence really does make the heart grow fonder. I was beyond happy to see my man again.

Today is our 30th wedding anniversary and having him back home is the best present ever. We have never been apart for three weeks in all the years we’ve been married. I admit I had a few melt-downs. Nights were the worst, no one to hold my hand, to throw my arm around. No “I love you” and no goodnight kiss. I may never let him out of my sight again. 🙂

Just a few more things to mention…I slept a lot less while he was away, I ate a lot less, (no fun cooking for one), I worked more and I found out that we have incredible and wonderful friends. Karla is like a sister and we either saw each other everyday or talked on the phone. Other friends took me to dinner, called and visited, and last Sunday evening Russell, Jim and Kevin came and mowed and groomed our yard.

I especially have a much greater appreciation for all the things Larry does around here too, things I have never had to worry about and I don’t come close to filling his shoes.

Lastly I learned that for those who have lost their loved ones there is a huge void in their lives. Friends and family are wonderful and awesome, but no one can take the place of a husband or wife.

Abba Father, in the name of your precious son, I thank you from the bottom of my heart for my husband and I thank you for bringing him home safely and for your immeasurable love, grace and mercy. I thank you too for friends who “love at all times.”

5 comments for “Day 20 – End of Experiment

  1. July 7, 2010 at 12:09 am

    Wow … what is worse, what you did for three weeks, or having to be in Fresno for three weeks? Tough one to call!!! You have me thirsty for that mango-peach tea! Glad he’s home safely and you are together again. But I enjoyed the posts!

  2. Meowmix
    July 6, 2010 at 3:05 pm

    Glad he’s home. I do not envy you your experiment! 🙂

  3. Brenda Casci
    July 5, 2010 at 6:19 pm

    One thing about our men being gone like that is the great honeymoon when they get home. As much as I miss Pete when he goes away it brings me great comfort to know he is coming back when I think of the ones whose spouse will never come home again. I thank God for the strength he gives me to get through the loneliness. Another thing I am
    thankful for is the cell phone. We talk several times a day. In the beginning of his truck driving career we didn’t have a cell phone. Brenda
    That kept me going too Brenda, just counting the days until I knew he would be home, and we talked on the phone every day. 🙂

  4. jel
    July 5, 2010 at 2:02 pm

    sounds like you really missed him.
    happy Anniversary,

    I sure did jel and thank you!! 🙂

  5. July 5, 2010 at 11:09 am

    Janice – I will comment on your post later, but right now, please email me b/c I don’t have your email address on my new laptop and need to correspond with you.

    Thanks,

    Dee

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