While at the grocery store earlier this week I ended up on the same aisle with a dear friend. Her husband passed away about two years ago. She is elderly and was stocking up for the big freeze we were expecting here in Northeast Oklahoma. I have been pretty good about calling her or visiting her, but with the holidays I let other things get in the way.

We chatted for a few minutes and she said she was getting along fine and mentioned that she talks to her cat and he never says a word. That really made me sad, and ashamed of myself for not being more diligent about staying in touch. I got “it”, she was very lonely.

Loneliness is a terrible thing. We can be surrounded by people and still be lonely. It’s important for us to know that we matter to someone else and if we have times when we feel as if we don’t matter…that’s not good!

I am reminded of the following lyrics-

One is the loneliest number that you’ll ever do
Two can be as bad as one
It’s the loneliest number since the number one

I would like to encourage and remind all of us to remember those who are alone, regardless of their age. A visit, phone call or even a card can put a smile on another’s face and bring a bit of joy into their day.

3 comments for “Loneliness

  1. Meowmix
    January 8, 2010 at 9:08 pm

    I needed the reminder, too. (And I remember that song!) I’m reminded of people who lose a loved one. We cover them up with love and attention until we leave the cemetery. But the loneliness stretches way beyond that, and we tend to forget. And there are those around us who are grieving for reasons other than death. There is someone every day to whom we can extend kindness and love.

  2. January 8, 2010 at 3:26 pm

    Excellent reminder. I am going to call an aunt of mine who is very dear to me. It’s been TOO long since we talked.

    When my grandmother was still alive and living alone, every now and then one of her out of town children (three lived nearby as well as numerous grandchildren, we all visited with her often) would drop by for a visit, but usually on a business trip or on the way to some other destination. She told me one time she sure wished those children would come her way just to visit with her. I’ve never forgotten that and though I could not visit with my mom often (we were a continent apart), I did call her two or three times a week for years.

    When you make that call to your aunt, I expect you will hear the smile in her voice. 🙂

  3. Missy
    January 8, 2010 at 12:33 pm

    That makes me sad as well. I remember Grandpa being lonely when Grandma was in the hospital, I used to make him dinner and spend all of my time with him…and then of course we spent hours together at grandma’s bed side, and then when he passed away it was a big shock, and I remember Grandma talking to his ashes all of the time. I have to admit I am not good at calling people, I am not a phone person, but I do try and make a point of sending cards to many of my friends once a month (or when I can afford it ;> )just to let them know how special they are!
    I bet you make this person feel very special! You’re great at that!

    I love you

    Thank you so much Missy, I love you too and I know how much it hurts to miss those who are no longer with us. I know you have many great memories.

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